Feel Less Anxious in Love, Feel More Secure in Yourself
Heather Schwartz, MSW,
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
I help women move beyond anxious patterns to build grounded, secure relationships.
I offer online therapy in Alaska and California for women ready to feel more at ease and confident in love.
My clients struggle as you do. Despite being smart, capable, and emotionally aware, love still feels like the one thing they can’t figure out. When they first come in, they tell me they feel like a different person in relationships. They overthink texts, feel overly sensitive to emotional distance, and lose sleep replaying conversations, wondering what they did wrong. They try to keep things calm and connected, but they’re constantly monitoring their partner’s mood or tone. They might apologize too often, avoid bringing up needs, or swing between closeness and shutdown.
They’re exhausted from carrying the emotional weight in the relationship—and frustrated with themselves for caring so much. The anxiety about being “too much,” “not enough,” or “too needy” takes up more space than they want to admit. Their anxious attachment gets in the way of the life they want in so many ways. They aren’t the kind of partner they want to be. They feel like they’re failing at dating, love, or long-term connection. And their confidence in themselves is starting to wear thin. Before they came to see me, many of my clients were hesitant. They worried therapy would feel awkward or too clinical. They weren’t sure they could explain what they were feeling. And they were pretty certain that a therapist would tell them to stop being so sensitive. Feeling insecure in love is isolating—and self-blame only makes it worse.
Like my clients, you deserve to feel grounded in relationships. You deserve to ask for what you need without guilt. To feel worthy of love without constantly proving it. If you want to feel more secure without having to become someone else, I’d love to help you get there.